Is advocating for your own needs "selfish?"

One of my greatest joys as a coach is when I see my clients achieve results.  I like to tell their stories because it shows everyone else what’s possible and inspires hope.  It helps to hear the nitty-gritty reality of exactly how other other people are doing it.

In this week’s podcast, I interview Jody Thompson who got amazing clarity on his life purpose.  Then just a few days later a new career opportunity opened up for him.  Understanding the intrinsic needs associated with his strong talents was one of the keys that unlocked his destiny.

I hope you enjoy this week’s episode.  Here are some highlights:

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How Can a Facilitator Maximize Your Planning?

As you think about your team’s performance goals for 2020, have you blocked out time for strategic planning?  Whether this happens in a one-day session or a full-blown offsite retreat, there are some very real benefits to having a third party facilitator lead the planning process.  Consider the following:

  • You’re free to participate. When someone else is running the meetings, it frees you up to be fully present in the discussions. The facilitator will worry about agendas, schedules, and group dynamics, and you’ll be available to bring you best thinking, undistracted.

  • Speaking with candor. A third party has no stake in internal politics or pet projects, so they can say the tough things when needed. I tell my clients, “If I don’t ruffle your feathers at some point, I’m not doing my job.” That might include calling out rude behavior, or pushing the team out of their comfort zone.

  • They know what works. A skilled facilitator has done this before. They’ve encountered all types of personalities and group dynamics. They know which exercises produce results and which are a waste of time. And they know how to pace the sessions, infuse variety and team-building exercises, and get you “unstuck” when things break down.

  • New ideas and approaches. Your team is entrenched in solving specific problems and driving productivity. But sometimes, their intense focus is limiting. An outsider can bring a fundamental shift in your approach, opening up new ways of thinking and giving a perspective that you may not have considered before.

  • External validation. You may be pitching an idea to your team for months only to have it fall on deaf ears. But when an outsider presents the exact same idea people perk up, listen, and buy into it. Use that dynamic to your advantage. A skilled facilitator can help bring your team to the same conclusions so that they embrace it as their own.

It’s not too early to schedule your 2020 strategic planning.  Engage a facilitator to ensure your team gets the most enjoyment and best results from their efforts.

What Everyone Else Sees About your Destiny


Are you like me? I can get so caught up in the challenges of day-to-day life that I lose perspective on the big picture - why I’m alive, the good things I have to offer the world, and the fact that I really am making a difference. Can you relate?

When I get “battle weary” I tend to focus on my problems and all the ways I haven’t lived up to my potential. That’s when my friends’ perspective is really important. They have the ability to see my potential, and sometimes they believe in me more than I believe in myself.

So I got thinking… instead of waiting for those encouragements to come around, what if we could proactively capture them? The result was a simple self-coaching tool that I developed. It has practical exercises and some simple questions to ask yourself.

Just click here to download it for free. It walks you through a simple process, and even has an instructional video with tips.

And you can click this link to listen to a recent segment on Dynamic Destiny Radio where unpack the concept in more detail.

If you like the download or the radio show please tell a friend about it.

And let me know what kind of insights you gained through the process. I might feature your reply on the show.

Thanks for reading. I hope this helps you gain clarity and see your full potential, because you really are God’s gift to the world.

A BIG Announcement!

With a combination of excitement and nervousness, I’m announcing my new radio show, Dynamic Destiny Radio. The show launches on September 18th, 2019 at noon EDT.

Together we’ll go deeper into topics from The Re:Pete blog, interview guests, and answer live questions.

Go to to listen live and check podcast archives in the future.

Thanks for all your support and wonderful comments. Keep ‘em coming. And please help spread the word about the radio show by telling your friends.

What topics would you like to hear us unpack on the show?

My Parents Pass Along Some Wisdom

Lou & Selma Cafarchio

Lou & Selma Cafarchio

I stopped by my parent’s house for a short visit and captured some video footage of their keys to a happy life.

At 88 and 89 years old, they’re doing very well. They still live independently, and are active in their community. They’re a cute couple, and still in love with each other after all these years.

Some of the values they share here might sound a little old-fashioned and simple, but that’s the point. They are time-tested and true, and they work!

And let’s show the rest of the world what long-term love looks like. Share the video in your social media feeds if you’d like.

Wishing you the best,
Coach Pete

"A Big Confidence-Builder for Me"

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By far my favorite part of coaching is when my clients get real results. The following testimonial is from an IT exec who was losing his confidence due to age discrimination and a bad work culture. He has a great turnaround story.

“My career was stagnating.  Despite being highly skilled and having a good history of success, I was faced with fewer and fewer options and a management culture that didn’t appreciate my experience or talent. 

“To make matters worse, the perception that I might be too old (ageism) was really hurting my confidence.  That put me at the mercy of the standard job hunting system.  I found myself reacting to each job opening, changing myself to try to fit the very narrow  job descriptions.  It didn’t work, and it actually eroded my energy and confidence even further.  

“I knew I needed a different method, and that’s when a friend introduced me to Coach Pete.  He took me through a completely different approach that was counter-intuitive.  Pete listened without judging me, but he didn’t sugar-coat the truth either.  He told me what I needed to hear and patiently walked me through the process.

“Along the way, I gained some valuable insights.  For instance, not only was I good at my craft, but that I still am good at it.  My age and experience are a huge plus when positioned properly.  And some challenges weren’t my fault - my entire industry is at a “low tide,” and that affects us all.  So that helped me to level-set on my expectations.   

“But the biggest insight was getting clarity on my own values.  Through coaching I was able to see the fact that trust and respect are very important to me.  So I needed to find a work culture that valued those qualities as well. 

“I’m happy to say that I’m now in a new role that’s a great fit for me.  Beyond salary requirements, I’m getting the important things that I need to feel fulfilled.  Without coaching, I wouldn’t have been able to identify those.

“Working through this process was a big confidence-builder for me, and I’ve been recommending Coach Pete to all my friends who are looking for a change.”

  • Jim Longo, IT Executive

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Waiting For Your Destiny

Image by  Lorri Lang  from  Pixabay

Image by Lorri Lang from Pixabay

When I was an idealistic young man I dreamt big, had a clear sense of destiny, and was excited for the future.

Fast forward 35 years, and the realities of life, career, and raising a family have a way of squashing those dreams right out of a person. But it doesn’t have to be that way.

I didn’t really question my destiny because I truly believe God planted those dreams in my heart to propel me forward. The bigger question was, between my present reality and my future dreams, what do I do in the meantime?

Those long in-between years can cause you to lose heart. So in this week’s video I share five principles that I’ve discovered along the way to keep you moving forward on your path to destiny.

Plus I show you a little of my morning bicycle path :-)

Please write back to me and tell me where you’re at in your journey. I’d love to hear your story.

How to Leverage Insights for Results

Image by  TeroVesalainen  from  Pixabay

Image by TeroVesalainen from Pixabay

If I had a dollar for every life-changing insight of mine that never went anywhere, I’d be a rich man - or at least I’d have a lot of dollars. Here are a few things I’ve learned (the hard way), that I’d like to pass on to you.

1) Your insight was only meant to be a booster, not the end goal.

Harnessed properly, insights provide new energy to push past your fears, prejudices, limitations, and inertia. But the only way for the insight to fulfill its boosting function is for you to take action. Otherwise it becomes just another clever thought.

2) You can’t store these up. 

The power of an insight will disappear pretty quickly (I give it 3 days, max, for me) if it’s not coupled with action. The lie I tell myself is that it’s safe to procrastinate - I can store it for now and dust it off when I need it. The truth is, that rarely works.

3) The Law of Diminishing Intent.

Jim Rohn coined this phrase, “The longer you wait to do something you should do now, the greater the odds that you will never actually do it.” A younger me thought that this doesn’t apply to me. Younger me was wrong. It applies to all of us.

Here’s a short video filmed in Central Park with an encouragement on the topic.

May all your epiphanies result in positive changes.

You Really ARE God's Gift to the World

"You think you're God's gift to the world!" was a phrase we'd use growing up.  The intent was to put someone in their place if we thought they were being arrogant or prideful. 

But hold on for a minute...

If you think about it, God made each one of us, selected a point in time and a location for us to be born, and gave us an incredibly unique set of skills, talents, tastes, and abilities. 

And His intent was for us to use those abilities to make our world a better place.  We'll do that in different ways, but most of us are trying our best.

The question isn't how much of an impact are you making.  Instead, are you making the kind of impact you were designed to make? 

The world - your world - needs you to keep showing up and trying in your own way to make it a better place.  

God knew we needed you in our world.  You're His gift to us.  But if you keep hiding in false humility we'll never get the benefit.

So rise up and be all you were meant to be.  Because you really are God's gift to the world.

Have a great Summer!

Get a Soul Recharge

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It might not seem all that important, but the Linden trees are in bloom every year at this time. They give off one of my favorite scents.

What IS important is taking time to go enjoy the small things in life that bring you pleasure.

Summer is upon us and will soon be gone. Make sure you intentionally feed your soul to keep it healthy.